Being Respectful of Others

  This type of behavior occurs when one person seems to just be answering emails or talking to you out of a common sense politeness.  They hardly ever ask any questions and respond ever so often, not with passion or purpose, but simply because they might consider it rude if they don't.  In these kind of relationships, the person feels like they are constantly running after the Apathetic Responder (AP), trying to spark their interest because they think that the AP could be an interesting person.  After all, they share many of the same interests and they seem like a decent individual. Unfortunately, that is not how life works.  If people are interested in being your friend, then they do not need the prompting of time to write/answer to you.  Quite the contrary, they want to respond, get to know you better and share experiences with you.  This is the natural behavior of someone who interested. When a person takes 2-3 days to respond to...

 This type of behavior usually manifests when a person turns to a friend in seeking relationship advice.  The Trusting Fool discusses the situation and talks about her feelings and fears.  The "friend" listens, but already has a judgment about the situation because she is biased.  At the end of the exposition, the friend provides some insight and comes to a rigid conclusion.   In a moment of trust and pure stupidity, the Trusting Fool actually becomes convinced of the friend's insight without questioning it.  In essence, they adopt the position and conclusion of the friend without any critical thinking or further study.  This is just plain stupid. First, every single person is subjective and biased.  There is no such thing as an objective friend.  They can be more objective than you, but they are not fool proof.  Second, everyone needs to make up their own mind.  A good friend is there to explore various options and, p...

 These types of behaviors usually manifest after a spat with a friend or partner.  The other person either acknowledges a mistake they made and apologizes or does not believe their behavior was out of line in the first place.  In response to this, the Unforgiving Vindicator feels hurt, but rather than just saying that they feel hurt and moving on, they cannot seem to let go of the wound inflicted by the other person and it begins to fester, poisoning the relationship.  Although I have seen this type of behavior in men, it usually manifests in women who have been hurt/disappointed by a boyfriend or friend.  What usually happens is that the person tends to be aggravated by something they perceive as a slight and then, they just focus on it.  This prevents any further good the other person may do.  For example, a guy forgets his girlfriend's birthday, so the girl is angry (and rightfully so).  However, after the guy takes her to the res...

  This type of behavior is usually associated with people who claim to be willing to compromise and be fair, but in the end, they cannot abide by the terms of the compromise they forged.  This is because they refuse to see that there is anything wrong with their behavior and, instead, are only focused on how they want the other person to change.  A compromise typically involves two people who dislike something about the other person or a behavior they consider harmful to the relationship.  In a true compromise, both people agree to give up something or change their behavior in exchange for their partner changing something. Unfortunately, the Hypocritical Compromiser was never interested in their personal change.  They are satisfied with who they are as an individual and don't believe that they need to change the behavior that bothers the other person.  Although the fact that they do not wish to change is not problematic in itself, the tru...

 Although this can apply to both guys and girls, it usually applies to guys.  This type of behavior involves guys being horny and switching their brains off or thinking with the wrong brain.  During this lapse in judgment, they decide to write to complete strangers of the opposite sex and ask for nude naughty pictures of them.  Beyond the guy making a complete fool of himself for having set himself up for a outright denial of his request, he has also marred the reputation of every other guy out there who is just trying to meet nice people.  It makes girls skeptical of guys online and of online dating. The reason these requests are stupid is as follows.  If you don't know the girl, only sluts or exhibitionists will give out their naked pictures to you.  This means that they are in all likelihood doing the same thing to any other guy who asks, and we all know there are quite a few of them.  A girl who readily distributes sexually expli...

 This type of behavior usually arises during conversations, when the One Worder simply begins to answer questions or statements with one word, such as "yeah, no, yes, ok, cool".  Such platitudes are not conducive to a conversation and make the other person feel like the One Worder is either not paying attention or not interested in the conversation.    A dialogue takes the commitment of 2 people discussing a topic or idea.  If one person isn't really involved, then you basically have a monologue.  I know that some people do not mind this type of behavior, but personally, I find it gets old very quickly.  I love to talk and good conversations can make my day.  However, I don't need someone else to talk to if the only responses I get are going to be one word statements or interjections.  I might as well talk to myself at that point.  People have very rich lives so you can never really know everything about someone.  Thi...