Behavior 12: The Bored Conversationalist

 


This type of behavior typically manifests in individuals who complain constantly about being bored yet, for some reason, remain lethargic when someone tries talking with them.  In a way, they push people away with their boredom, as if trying to create their own bored sphere to justify their boredom.  They typically answer questions with statement that kill a conversation, preventing any exchange from ever developing and then, they wonder why people get tired of talking to them.

Everyone can chose to be interesting and hold a decent conversation.  It is not rocket science.  You ask a question, the person responds and asks you, you answer and give something substantial for the other person to ask a question.  A conversation is an exchange of ideas and the sharing of feelings.  If you can't bother being a little bit interesting, then why bother talking to anyone at all?  A conversation should not be like pulling teeth out or a daunting challenge where you spend most of your time trying to extract information from the other person.   The only explanations for this type of behavior is that (1) the person is not interested in talking and/or (2) there is no depth to the individual in the first place.

Example of a Bored Conversationalist (BC)

You:  So, what kind of classes do you like?
BC: English
You: Why do you like English?
BC: I like to write
You:  What do you like to write?
BC: Stuff.  u?
You:  Well, I like to write poems and fictional writing.  How do you usually relax?
BC: Depends
You:  On what?
BC:  How I feel.
You: ........... (*by now, even you are bored with the conversation*)

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