Behavior 11: The Apathetic Responder

 


This type of behavior occurs when one person seems to just be answering emails or talking to you out of a common sense politeness.  They hardly ever ask any questions and respond ever so often, not with passion or purpose, but simply because they might consider it rude if they don't.  In these kind of relationships, the person feels like they are constantly running after the Apathetic Responder (AP), trying to spark their interest because they think that the AP could be an interesting person.  After all, they share many of the same interests and they seem like a decent individual.

Unfortunately, that is not how life works.  If people are interested in being your friend, then they do not need the prompting of time to write/answer to you.  Quite the contrary, they want to respond, get to know you better and share experiences with you.  This is the natural behavior of someone who interested.

When a person takes 2-3 days to respond to you every time, it is because they view responding to you as a chore, not as something they enjoy or to which they look forward.  Yes, people can be busy and forget, but never enough not to answer.  I have spoken to a single of mother of 1 and despite dealing with her child, she still "made" the time to talk and respond to me every 2-3 hrs.  To believe that people are too busy or forget to answer when they want to do so is very self-destructive because it is tantamount to hoping that they are more interested in the relationship than they really are.  Eventually, the relationship (romantic of friendship) falls apart and you are the one left hurting.

Example of this behavior:
A girl who goes out on a date with a guy and has to wait 2-3 days for the guy to respond to her every time. 

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