Behavior 2: The Slow Responder

 


The people guilty of this type of behavior typically use their phones to talk with people on Yahoo Messenger, Skype or Facebook.  These people are usually busy talking to people, sometimes multiple people, but are doing something else in the process, which means that their response time falls between too quick to be simple emailing and too slow to be a real conversation.  This means that, frequently, the other person spends a considerable amount of time waiting for a response to their message because the first 2-3 answers came in 30 seconds but the current answer has not arrived for 20 min.

 The reason this is annoying is because it basically involves one person acting in such a way that they are telling the other person: "I don't value your time".   These people are constantly distracted and they answer once or twice every 10-20 min, presuming they haven't actually forgotten that they are talking to someone. WTF.  Now, before plaudits jump on this, I think that there is nothing wrong with this if both people are in agreement with this and both people are doing the same thing.  It does become a problem when one person voices their concern and frustration at the response time because they want an actual conversation.  

When this happens, the person taking a long time to answer needs to decide whether they want to just inform the other person that they are busy at the moment but will be available for a conversation later or are available for a conversation now.  What is intolerable, is for the Slow Responder to say they want a conversation every time the other person complains but not change their behavior.  If you want to talk, talk, if you want to do something else, then do something. When you are in a conversation with someone, they are waiting for your response. Don't waste their time while they're waiting in vain for an answer that will only come during an intermission of a show or when you remember to pause the game you're playing.  If you act this way, you are just being inconsiderate.

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