Behavior 5: The Unresponsive Ass

 In our contemporary society, people receive messages in a few seconds, whether on the phone or on the computer. However, for some strange reason, some people you consider friends just don't answer. You take your time to write to them and yet, hours turn into days and still no response. At first, you think that the people are just away from their computer or busy. Then, you see the facebook pic where they are out having fun or complaining that they are board and you are like: "WTF dude".


Yes, when I see you online or see you have any activity and you do not answer my message, I usually give you the benefit of the doubt even though I am peeved. I try to think that, somehow, despite the boredom, you might have missed the message, even though I am hurt you would even think I wouldn't answer. So I try again to get the conversation started by sending another message. When the conversation falls apart again for the same reason (and there was not apology for the first collapse) I assume that you simply do not value our friendship.

For those people who wonder why they can't find nice sensitive people as friends, or girls looking for sensitive guys, that would be because the nice sensitive people aren't going to keep chasing after you forever. Only people who want something from you will run after you until they get what they want and have used you. People who want to be real friends will leave once they discover that you are not as committed to the friendship as they are.

If you want to be friends with someone who is sensitive, remember that they "are sensitive" and will get hurt when you don't treat them with the same respect and the devotion that they treat you. Call it high maintenance, but in the end, you need to decide whether you value that kind of friendship. However, be aware that when your life takes a downturn and you are depressed beyond grief, these people will be the only ones to stick by you.

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