Behavior 1: The Abrasive Person

 This type of behavior usually materializes when the Abrasive Person (AP) makes snark remarks or comments that are solely made for the purpose of putting down the other person.  The comments make the person who expressed them feel better about themselves but make the other person feel belittled and insulted, not only because the comments are insensitive, but because they are surprised by the aggressiveness with which the comments were made.  In other words, the AP is openly aggressive and berating.  The ultimate result of this type of behavior is for communication to break down between the two people and the person who was belittled to walk away.  Although this behavior may provide immediate relief to the AP, over the long term, it drives people away and isolates them. 

Anyone can have a bad day. However, when your friends begin to feel like they have to constantly tip-toe around you because one false movement and you are going to fly off the handle/be upset and give them attitude, then you may need to take an introspective look at your own behavior. Brute force and honesty can be good, in moderation, when they are also tempered by kindness and respect. If you are upset about something, just say so, explain why you didn't like it and then move on if the other person apologizes. Do not get mad, blast the person and just leave. That is a horrible way to resolve disputes. 

When you have attitude every time someone says something that displeases you or you feel entitled to give attitude to everyone just for the sake of it, you should not be surprised if others begin to shy away.  No one likes being around you for long, whether friends or partners....

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